Learning the ropes

“No.”

“Not yet.”

“I don’t want to.”

“Coz Mummy.”

“I’m a big girl.”

Yep defiance is strong in my baby girl. I wonder where she gets it from?! Haha, who am I kidding?!! Miss Phoebe is one strong willed and very independent young lady and very much like her mummy already. Well, to be fair, both my girls can be a lot like me. There’s nothing wrong with that, on a good day that is! Don’t ask me on a bad day. On a bad day I’m not even sure they’re my children, hahahaha!

It’s a different experience, watching their little personalities shine through as they turn into a little person. I never thought it would go this quick. One minute they were my little babies and now they’re forging their own paths in the world. Okay, so maybe I’m jumping ahead a little bit, they are only two and four after all, but it has, so far, gone very quickly.

In saying that, I do spend a lot of time butting heads and feeling like I’m going nowhere. My girls certainly have a lot of sass. I’m not going to lie, I’m very proud of their ability to stand up for themselves. It just doesn’t work when Mummy is trying to make a point where they should be eating, or not giving me so much attitude. You really can’t win and I’m finding raising girls certainly comes with a lot of challenges. I am terrified of what lies ahead in the next 10 to 15 years, plenty of screaming matches to come, no doubt!

It begs the question, how do you teach them to channel the cheeky/defiant/whatever you want to call it really, attitude into something that isn’t going to leave you banging your head against the proverbial wall? Or am I just doomed? Karma maybe for all the “fun” I put my mum through?

I still find it funny that no matter how much trouble they get up to or get in, they always want hugs from mummy in the end. They might be cranky or sulking in the corner, but you can pull a funny face or tickle them until fits of giggles ensue and it’s game over once again (sometimes mummy does win, haha!)! I knew life with kids would never be easy, but some days are downright challenging and exhausting, especially with my two little bundles of attitude riddled never-ending energy.

I don’t ever want to wish the time away, especially when I keep saying how quickly it’s going, but there are times I can’t wait to get past some stages. Defiance I know won’t disappear overnight (or possibly ever!), attitude, well that really speaks for itself, thinking mummy is the best can only last for five minutes at a time and the rest just goes in waves. I know that despite feeling overwhelmed and quite often like I’m failing and flailing, I just have to try and learn from it all and keep smiling. Yeah yeah, I know, easier said than done! And maybe, just maybe, one day I might take some of my own advice. Yep, I can hear the laughter ringing in my own ears, haha!

Until next time….