Is there ever a good time in life to do anything??
Or do you keep waiting for the “right” time?
Life is a roller coaster of highly anticipated events.
From the moment you’re born, you go through your multitude of first achievements, head off to school, maybe study further and then launch yourself into a job/career/life path.
But if that isn’t enough, your personal life has its own roll of events.
Lots of questions are thrown at you from all those near and dear.
Have you got someone special in your life?
If you have been together for a long time, it’s when will you get engaged??
Once you’re engaged when will you get married?
Once married, it’s the dreaded inevitable question everyone is asked: when are you having kids?
Once you pop out the first one, when are you going to have another one??
Then repeat if there is the prospect of any more rug rats.
And so on and so on.
So you’re probably wondering where I’m going with this (hopefully you’re still reading)….
As always it is related to my beautiful girls, because let’s face it without them, I’m not sure what I’d write about.
They fill my life with lots of fun, drama, chaos, giggles and so much more.
I became a first time mum at 29 and looking back I think I still didn’t feel quite ready.
Hell I’m a mum of two at 32 and there are days I still have no idea what I’m doing.
Like most other mums I’m just fumbling through trying to make it look like I have a grip on things.
It’s not easy raising little humans. I don’t think it matters how much you (try to) prepare yourself for life as a parent, it’s still one of those things in life full of the unknown.
No parent is perfect and neither are their children, good luck to you if you think otherwise!
I’m far from being an expert but I’ve certainly got a small grasp on a few things in the (nearly) three years I’ve been known as “Mummy”.
Well I’m guessing I’ve done at least one or two things right because the girls are still alive (haha!).
Some advice/musings/general ramblings:
-Parenting is hard work and life altering! Like most things in life there really is no ideal time to have children, but they will change your life in good and bad ways.
– It is not quite the same as having a pet, although some days I’m not so sure….
-There is a difference to having a child full time and looking after someone else’s before you have your own.
If we could all try before we buy, it might be a different story (just kidding!).
-Kids will gang up on you, they sense fear and vulnerability! They know when you’re having a shit day and they don’t care so you really have to put on your big girl panties and keep going.
-Toddlers have serious attitude, they will make you question your every move. And yes they will push you to breaking point.
But it’s always great to remind them that you still have all the control over their toys, food and anything fun, some might just call it bribery.
But once again try to remember that when it comes to kids time will fly by. So hold on tight because they do grow way too fast.
Enjoy every kiss, cuddle, whisper and unconditional love like there is no tomorrow but always be prepared for the twists and turns that come hand in hand with raising mini versions of yourself.
And while they never hear the rules you make, you can bet they always remember the promises!!