A different kind of normal

What day of the week is it again?
I think every day has been rolling into the next in a bit of a blur. What used to be a normal structure and routine has disappeared. Thankfully some kind of “normal”, and I use that term very very loosely, looks set to return. Woohoo! We better not break out the party streamers just yet, because if we have learnt anything over the last few months is how quickly things can change.

I think I’ve been tested as a parent more in recent weeks than ever before. I’ve learnt I’m definitely not a teacher and have zero interest in taking it up as a profession, pretty much ever! Some aspects of doing school from home haven’t been too bad but overall, it wasn’t my cup of tea. Let’s just say, I’m very much looking forward to my big girl returning to the classroom in a few days!

What is a social life anymore? Not that I really had much of a “social” life before. Not unless you count chatting to other parents at school drop off/pick up and play dates. That’s a social life right?! Not being able to go out and see friends has certainly taken its toll on everyone, from adults right through to the littlies – my girls definitely included. I think it’s quite possible I have yelled at them more in the last 2 months than ever before, I’m sure the neighbourhood probably agrees, haha! They have been seeing each other all day, every day and it shows! Constant bickering and fighting over even the silliest of things. Going back to school and kindy might actually give them a chance to miss each other again, aww! I’m hoping so anyway. If not, I think I’m completely screwed.

My girls have been pretty good at understanding why their little world has changed so much, well mostly anyway. A quick trip to grab a few groceries with them in tow (for the first time in months) the other day had me nearly dropping the f-bomb in public. Why is it as soon as you tell kids not to touch or do something, they are compelled to do the exact opposite?!! I know I’m not alone in this one! Let’s just say, I think I’ll continue to grab groceries alone in the foreseeable future. I’m not sure whether I’m overjoyed or bummed about this prospect. Plus they still don’t quite get the idea of keeping their distance from other people, although I think they’re doing better than a lot of adults out there!

On a slightly different note, it’s a special day for many out there this Sunday – Mother’s Day. It might not quite look the same for everyone this year but it’s still worth celebrating all the mums and those who fit into the role, however that may be. It holds a different meaning for so many people. For me, it reminds me of the three most important people in my life. The two beautiful little girls (yeah I know, I’m feeling sentimental so they’re beautiful instead of the usual terrors) who made me a mum and remind me on a regular basis why I am their slave…I mean the best mummy ever. They are the same right?! And I can’t not mention the person who gave me life and who listens to me whinge all the time, my amazing mum! Without her, I wouldn’t be where I am today. I haven’t been the easiest person to put up with, especially in the last three and a bit years, but I know you do it because I am the best child you have. Oh right, it’s actually because you love me!

Happy Mother’s Day to all the mums, mums-to-be, step mums, the dads who might be mum as well and everyone else who fits into the “mum” category, you are all amazing! May your day be filled with love, fun and laughter, along with some good presents as well!

Challenging perspectives

Challenging perspectives

You’re perfect just the way you are.

Whether you realise it or not.

I, for one, am guilty of not seeing the best in myself (so I’m told) and I’m sure I’m not alone.

Have you ever looked at the other Mums in your friends circle and started doubting yourself?

We all do it!

I swear, as women, we have a built in gene that makes us compare ourselves against others.

And as Mums that gene tends to go into overdrive!

You feel like you’re just treading water but your fellow mummies look like they’re floating just above the waterline.

You can barely manage brushing your hair before ushering kids out the door and they look like they’re ready for a beauty shoot.

I can only think of a few reasons why some Mums look like they have it all under control and all without a hair out of place!

Number One: They don’t sleep! EVER!!
Which surely means they are superhuman or a robot.

Number Two: Their kids aren’t really theirs and they just hire them for occasions.

Number Three: They have a secret army of helpers who do everything for them!

But in all honesty we’re all in the same boat.

We all struggle, yell, scream and cry but the key thing to remember is some are just better at hiding it than others.

Children can be exhausting and at times hard work but thankfully it isn’t all the time.

If everyone in your house is fed, clean and happy you’re doing an amazing job.

Washing and other housework is a mere bonus.

You are a SuperMum, whether you feel like it or not.

In your kids eyes you are their world.

They don’t care if you haven’t cleaned the house or if you’ve brushed your hair or not.

They just want you to be there especially for mummy cuddles.

And in return you receive sincere unconditional love.

So whenever you feel like everyone else is acing the mum gig and you’re not, just take a a quick look at your little ones.

That’s all the reminder you need!

A mother’s tale

“Mummy, mummy, mummy, mummy……”

I’m not going to lie, I’m still loving hearing it.

No doubt that will change one day.

Just like there are days I love being a mum.

And there are days I don’t.

And as the cliched saying goes, I wouldn’t change a thing.

Mind you, there are days I think I could.

But that’s another story.

Aside from my husband, Miss Izzie is definitely the love of my life.

It’s a love that has been there since before she was even born.

It’s probably a love that I can’t even describe (but I don’t want to get too soppy on you!).

She makes me smile, laugh and cry.
And yes she most certainly makes me mad.

But her infectious personality makes even the gloomiest of days so much brighter.

Okay I’m a little biased but she’s a pretty cute, easy going (not all the time!!) kid….when I’m in a good mood of course (haha!).

I never really thought much about being a mum when I was growing up.

That’s not to say I didn’t think about having kids one day, I just never imagined what it would be like.

And if I’m going to be honest, it’s not really what I was expecting!

Being a mum, a parent in general really, is hard.

Not that I thought it was going to be a walk in the park.

Your life, as you once knew it, has changed, in some ways, for the better.

You stop thinking about just yourself and become responsible for a tiny human, relying on you for love, guidance and of course food and fresh nappies!

As with most things in life, you get on with it but enjoy it so much more when you’re rewarded with that cheeky smile, hug or even the call (scream) of “mummy”.

That’s what makes every day special but days like Mother’s Day take on even more of a meaning now.

It’s my second Mother’s Day as a mum and I think with an energetic (hopefully) happy toddler on my hands it’s going to be a beautiful day.

For all the lucky mums out there, whether it’s breakfast in bed, opening precious gifts, simply just relaxing or just being mum (like every other day), I hope you all enjoy your special day because it’s back to normal on Monday!

For everyone else, don’t forget to spoil those awesome, fantastic and special women in your life who mean the most to you!

To all the beautiful mums (including my own), mums-to-be and those fulfilling the role, I wish you all a very Happy Mother’s Day!