Misconceptions of time

“What do you do with yourself these days?”

It’s a question I’ve heard a fair bit lately.

While many have given up asking when I’m going back to work, it seems now the hidden question is along the lines of what I do all day.

I may be a stay-at-home mum but I certainly don’t sit around all day having a good time.

In fact, it’s the complete opposite.

Unless you think the washing, cleaning, cooking and other house duties take care of themselves (I wish!).

But they’re just a small part of my day.

In fact I actually spend a big chunk of my time playing and or entertaining my 18-month-old bundle of energy, AKA Izzie.

Oh and providing her with what feels like a never ending supply of snacks and meals.

Other then naptime, which can last anywhere from an hour to three (if I’m lucky) depending on the day, she’s on the go from first thing in the morning right up until bedtime at 7pm.

It makes for busy times.

I’m not saying we don’t have quiet reading time or maybe a bit of downtime watching a show (think Bananas in Pyjamas) but usually there’s a lot of running (Izzie) and chasing (me).

Never a dull moment, that’s for sure.

The quietest time of day (bedtime, yay!) isn’t always necessarily an opportunity to relax in my comfy chair either, well not straight away anyway.

Dishes, sorting washing, re-making the bed, ironing, all the menial tasks really, usually take place at this time of night.

Oh and not to mention the words you see before you, my blog writing, the words don’t just fall on the page.

I often wonder how I managed to work full-time, do all the house duties and still have a social life.

I can’t remember the last time my lovely husband and I went out for dinner (I’m sure he’d like to change that).

Now my social life involves catching up on my recorded television shows.

Oh how life has changed….for the better, of course!

There are days where I long to be back working to a deadline but I know I’d miss hanging out with Izzie too much.

I’ve heard many mums (and a few others) say being a stay-at-home parent is one of the toughest jobs out there, because it never stops.

I’m sure everyone would have an opinion on this and let me just say, most people work hard in their own way.

But they do say to really appreciate what someone is going through, you need to walk a mile in their shoes.

Any takers? (Haha!)

But if I can leave you with a thought, let me give you a tip. Never ask a stay-at-home mum (or dad) what have they actually been doing all day, it may not go so well for you.

The bigger picture

I’ve been asked by a lot of people lately, the one question that every mother who has been at home with young children hears frequently.

“When are you going back to work??”

With a pause and a sigh I usually respond with “not anytime soon”.

It’s a response usually met with a mixed reaction, either surprise or respect.

I’ve heard from other mothers who have returned to work, that staying at home is a lot harder.

I’ll admit there are days I miss the daily grind of phone calls, deadlines, interviews and writing stories. Even after writing that sentence I feel a pang for what I’m missing.
And maybe one day I’ll go there again.

But right now as I hear the high pitched squeal of an excited one-year-old sifting through her toys, my mind is quickly catapulted back to the here and now.

I may not receive an income for what I’m doing but I am certainly rewarded with cuddles, cute smiles and giggles and of course the nasties of snot, dribble and dirty nappies.

I have plans, who doesn’t?! I also have goals and set myself benchmarks of what I want to achieve. Whether I get there now or in a year remains a mystery.

As honestly as I can put it, yes I have days where I feel like I’ve lost the old me and I’ve cried more times than I can count.

I don’t regret my decisions (well most of the time) but I know that I have to look forward and not behind because you can’t change the past.

I’m grateful for what I have achieved personally and professionally and thankful to those who have helped me get to where I am today.

So when am I going back to work I hear you asking. And I know you’re thinking it…..

Well actually I’m working right now, as a mum my job never stops.

But if that’s not the answer you’re looking for, don’t worry I do have plans to work again.

My creative mind is already ticking over with ideas….

You just never know what I might do next 🙂

Until next time.